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Praying for Jessica

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“I’m looking for a wife and I’m coming up empty-handed.”

The conversation with the young man across the table presented a puzzle, a longing. Not desperate, but the natural desire for love and companionship. 

There’s something innate in the heart of a man that longs for a relationship; to be seen, known, and understood, yes, but to also be a man who longs to lead, learn, and love. 

From a self-focused adolescent male to becoming a young man who is selflessly generous; that’s how God wants to father us boys into men.

Some guys miss the mark by focusing more on their physique, their suave and swagger thinking that will woo the woman.

Others strategize “divine appointments” by running from group to group, event to event, bar to bar, just hoping the right one will be there.

Few take the trust route by asking God to provide.

True story. Four young guys graduated from university and moved to the same large city: each with their first post-college jobs.

Rooming together they decided to carry on their college days bro-hood by having supper together once a week. All four guys followed Jesus. Each good-looking in their own right. All four had no girlfriends. 

“Guys,” Carson suggested. “I know we are each in the process of becoming godly guys and all. We know each other well enough to challenge each other when we have things to work on. None of us have girlfriends and I know we would love to be married someday.”

“ How about we pray for our future wives?” Jeremy suggested.

The guys started praying together for their future ladies. 

Lord, you know we each would like to be married someday. We have no idea who she is or their names. “

Seth interrupted the prayer. “ Guys, what are our future wives’ names?”

The guys opened their eyes and smiled.

“Jessica. I say we pray for Jessica.” Eli suggested.

Weeks went by. Every Wednesday night they prayed for Jessica. 

Months go by. No girlfriends. No Jessicas.

Yet, the guys kept praying, hoping, and trusting.

Then, it happened. Carson met a girl, at church. 

Her name wasn’t Jessica, but her heart was who he was looking for, and his heart was hers too.

His roommates were happy for them.

They kept praying. More weeks went by, even months. Every Wednesday night. Supper and praying for Jessica.

A couple of the guys met some nice girls. Dated a few times.  Not much else happened.  They were nice girls, but their hearts weren’t beating as one.

The guys got older. It seemed as if their characters were being stretched.  Tears of longing sometimes filled their prayers.  God was working.

One by one, on timetables they never expected the three remaining guys each met their Jessicas.

One of them proposed and got married. His roommates were groomsmen! 

The other guys are still dating and seeing their relationships headed in the right direction.

Word spread about these four guys praying for their future wives.

Some guys in another city who were also in their twenties without girlfriends caught wind of how God provided Jessicas.  

“Praying for Jessica”, became their weekly prayer too.

A movement was happening. The cool thing is some young women were praying for their Jakes!

In the end, the couples each concluded it wasn’t good looks or fun things they did that drew them to each other.  The most attractive thing was their hearts for Jesus. 

Maybe trusting God for a wife is rooted in praying for Jessica!

Warrior On!

David Riffel is the Founder and Executive Director of Having gone through his warrior years (18-30) essentially without a mentor, God has placed in him a heart for warriors, to come alongside them in various ways as they figure out life. David’s newly released book, Mentoring Warriors: Coming Alongside Young Men 18-30, outlines principles for mentoring and gives advice for warriors in six key areas of life: self-management, life skills, education/career, relationships, faith, and identity.

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