Faith Identity

Purity of Heart and Mind-Part 3 (Finale)

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MW Editor’s note. We hope you have followed with us on this 3-week fire pit talk about purity of heart and mind. Check out this final part of one of the most vital parts of your manhood.

I’ve personally seen young men entrenched in sexual addictions find their way to not just sexual healing but to a deeper manhood character than ever before.  I am not justifying the sin but through that open, honest struggle I mentioned earlier in a close-knit community of mentors and brothers in Christ can actually strengthen their resolve for purity and victory.

There are a host of passages in the New Testament that talk about ways we are to pursue purity/holiness.

1 Timothy 4:12 ESV 

“Let no one despise you for your youth, but set the believers an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity.”

Hebrews 4:12-13 ESV

For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit, of joints and of marrow, and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart. And no creature is hidden from his sight, but all are naked and exposed to the eyes of him to whom we must give account.”

Psalm 119: 9-11 ESV

“How can a young man keep his way pure?

    By guarding it according to your word.

With my whole heart, I seek you;

    Let me not wander from your commandments!

I have stored up your word in my heart,

    that I might not sin against you.”

I want to make an observation about the condition of men in our culture. At the top of this article, I referred to a chaotic pursuit of anything man determines to be true, as if it is true to them. This view of truth (and purity) is adrift from any solid moral anchors. There is a huge push in our Western culture to declaw masculinity; to turn the common man into a passive, adventure-less, non-defined male that is ultimately resolved to depend on others for their livelihood. Be that his parents or the government.

The well-educated elite have concluded we cannot govern ourselves and thus, we need them as experts to tell us how to live.  Senator Josh Hawley, (Missouri) in his recent book Manhood unpacks this malady facing our young men and ultimately our nation. How does this play into our pursuit of purity?  Devastatingly so. If self-gratification is celebrated over sacrifice and godly character, a young man, even if he calls himself a Jesus follower, will not see the value of self-discipline and self-order in his pursuit of the higher calling God has on him. He will create low standards for himself and others. He will rationalize anything and everything God calls impure as okay… “Just a little porn will do. Just a few times drunk will be okay. I can put off my career because the experts are telling me I have no real purpose but to enjoy entertainment, consuming all for myself, regardless of its impact on me.

Unmotivated men of any age are a blight to our nations, a drain on the pursuit of purity, and a disgrace to Christ and his church. Relegating Jesus to one hour a week or a token Bible reading won’t cut it. 

To grow in purity, here are a few tried and true tools..

  1. Spend time engaging Jesus in every aspect of your life. Don’t do what the Greeks did and separate the secular and the spiritual. All of life is spiritual. Grocery shopping, working out, hanging with friends, entertainment, your job, and your core purposes in life. All of it is to be lived in a relational intimacy with Jesus. There is not a single second of the 168 hours you have each week that is not spiritual; even your sleep. (Sometimes God even speaks to us through our dreams. ) Ask Jesus to come alive in all you do and think.

2. Long for Jesus. In James 4:5 it reads…

“Or do you suppose it is to no purpose that the Scripture says, “He yearns jealously over the spirit that he has made to dwell in us”?”

If we understood 1/100,000th of the longing Jesus has for us, we’d reciprocate that longing for Him from the core of our souls.  This means time in His Word. Let the Word of Christ saturate your soul as you go through life.

3. Pursue Jesus in community.

Author Jay Stringer, in his book, Unwanted, speaks highly of living out our healing and spiritual journeys in a community of faith; like-minded Jesus followers.  Nothing will do more to ripen your heart for purity than doing it with others. 

When I engage in godly man-to-man, iron sharpens iron relationships, I grow the most in my relationship with Jesus. I see the Spirit at work and my heart and lifestyle align with Him, albeit not perfectly but increasingly so.

Purity is yours for the taking. Will you choose to walk with Jesus or keep trying harder on your own?

Warrior On!

MW Editor’s final comment: Don’t run off to the next thing you have to do without taking some serious thought to this entire idea of purity of heart and mind. It has far-reaching implications. If you want to dialogue more, reach out to us at

David Riffel

David Riffel is the Founder and Executive Director of Mentoring Warriors, a 501c3 charitable organization committed to equipping men to mentor and preparing warriors (ages 18-30) for life. Having gone through his warrior years essentially without a mentor, God has placed in him a heart for warriors, to come alongside them in various ways as they figure out life. David’s newly-released book, Mentoring Warriors: Coming Alongside Young Men 18-30, outlines principles for mentoring and gives advice for warriors in six key areas of life: self-management, life skills, education/career, relationships, faith, and identity. David has been an architect in professional practice for over 35 years.

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