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Porn Brain

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A survey of over 12,000 participants was taken on their use of pornography. The results were quite revealing.

  • 96% of men watch porn.
  • Of the age bracket of 17-34 years old, that number rose to 99%.
  • Of that age bracket (17-34), the frequency of porn use looked like this:
    • Daily 17%
    • More than once a week 50%
    • Less than once a week 21%
    • Once a month 11%
    • Never 1%
  • Of those watching porn, 98% did it alone.
  • In another survey, it was found that porn users watch an average of 4.09 hours a week. The Brain on Porn – NCOSE

There’s more to that survey The sex survey: how you answered the porn questions – The Irish Times, but the overarching story is that a vast majority of men have a problem with porn. A significant portion sees it as a problem but feel trapped. The rest figure that sex in real life is to be what they see online. In fact, certain organizations touting themselves for their sex education promote pornography and are doing all they can to infiltrate public and government entities to spread their pro-porn propaganda. In a recent move, one State Public Health Department was caught teaming with such a pro-porn education group, where their material was to be taught to children as young as age 9. Public outcry was so loud that the State immediately removed all of such links to that pro-porn education material and disavowed that they would ever promote pornography.  DHW does not support or fund any ‘porn literacy’ for children in Idaho

Bottomline

Surveys seem so abstract, and impersonal, with numbers and stats on a page. And yet, if the percentages are true, then it is between 96%-99% probable that you are a porn user. Maybe it was a long-time ago or perhaps just before you read this article. We can track behaviors all day long, but the reality is for every porn click, sexual arousal, and acting out (usually masturbation), there is a deeply soul-centered wound that is driving such sexually immoral use.

Porn Re-Maps Your Brain

Other studies have shown that continued use of porn actually re-wires the neurotransmitters and synapses in your brain. The Brain on Porn – NCOSE  Your pre-frontal cortex, where higher reasoning and decision-making occurs is significantly reduced with increased porn use. In fact, a porn brain becomes much like a brain addicted to heroin.  Here is an image of a normal brain (no porn use), a heroin brain, and a porn brain.

The holes in the brain reveal cognitive disruption. Your brain shrinks and your capacity to make moral decisions decreases. 

Why Would I Want That?

I asked myself the same question. Is porn use that arouses you at the moment, skews your view of sexuality, and hinders your higher reasoning capacity worth the click?  Studies have also shown that persistent use of porn that rewires your brain alters your DNA such that you can now pass a predisposition for sexual deviancy to your children. Talk about a sobering reality!  Who of us truly wants to leave a legacy of a poor marriage and sexual deviancy to the next generation? “Yeah, grandpa was known as a pervert.”  Is that what you want to be remembered as?  

But I can keep it a secret

Really? For how long? From whom? Your girlfriend? Wife? Kids? Co-workers? Your pastor? The guys you hang with at church? No man I’ve ever known who struggles with porn beats it solo. It’s only when they are courageously vulnerable that the stronghold of evil is revealed and help can be found. 

Jesus-Loving Men on Porn

It seems like an oxymoron. You say you love Jesus, and yet you click and masturbate over polished images of all kinds of sexual acts that are contrary to God’s design for sex. Sex is God’s idea. He created us male and female and loves it when a husband and wife enjoy the pleasure and intimacy of sexual intercourse. Exclusive sex. 

Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” Hebrews 13:4 ESV

The only person on the planet you have the privilege of being intimate with is your wife. “Porn is like me having an affair.”  one guy told me. Yep, it is. 

Cultural Push

There is a massive push in culture to shift our sexual view from a Christ-centered, holy and pleasurable experience between a man and his wife, into a free-for-all where anyone can have sex with anyone: man to a woman outside of marriage, woman to woman, man to man, pedophile sex, incest, bestiality. Even the push for gender dysphoria plays into this entire pro-porn push. One pro-porn education group put out a recording that says watching porn increases ones critical thinking skills. It does not. It does the opposite.  Studies in Germany and Asia have shown that porn use degrades critical thinking skills and degenerates relational health. 

QEEG-based Brain Mapping of Internet Pornography Addicted Adolescents  

The sex survey: how you answered the porn questions – The Irish Times

Strings Attached

There is a string attached to every porn use; your heart. Whether it is your God-given desire to be known and loved, looking to porn or other addictive substances is a loud cry for help. John Ortberg once said (paraphrase) “that for every soul need we have, God is the mirror image of that need. The women on a porn site have no interest in you. The porn producers are exploiting them and taking advantage of your sexual desires. They do not love you. Nor do they care to know you. I first saw porn at age 13. Those images were indelibly printed on my adolescent brain. Because I had no one to walk me through my own sexual development or explain what was happening to my body and mind, I thought those porn images were what I should expect when I grew up and got married. What I sadly fell into was a dark cistern of lust and masturbation as a coping mechanism. I’m sure if they could have scanned my brain back then, it would resemble the images above. Sex was not the issue, it was my wounded heart.

True Identity

When I see myself as God does, loved and fully known, in Christ, my appetite for porn and any lustful desires fade. Like Ortberg said, my needs are best met in God. In fact, through Christ, your brain can be rewired back to a normal brain! The power of sin is broken in Christ! So, next time you feel the urge to click, pause, and ask Jesus what string is attached to this desire. Give him your heart and instead of clicking, reach out to your mentor or a trusted friend who will help you fight this battle. I’ve seen the victories many young men experience when they ask for help.

Warrior On!

David Riffel is the Founder and Executive Director of www.Mentoring-Warriors.com. Having gone through his warrior years (18-30) essentially without a mentor, God has placed in him a heart for warriors, to come alongside them in various ways as they figure out life. David’s newly released book, Mentoring Warriors: Coming Alongside Young Men 18-30, outlines principles for mentoring and gives advice for warriors in six key areas of life: self-management, life skills, education/career, relationships, faith, and identity.

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