Mentoring Helps

Now Hiring: Mentors

Hiring signs are popping up all over our city. Fast food restaurants to call centers are clamoring for new help. Hospitals are paying signing bonuses for nursing staff.  Professionals are looking for everything from new graduates to seasoned employees. There is one segment that isn’t advertising the normal way most businesses do, but the need is far more than any of the companies’ employment needs combined.

Mentors Are Hard to Come By

In Luke 10:2, Jesus said the harvest is plentiful, but the workers are few. He told us to pray to the Lord to raise up workers in the harvest field. 

We at Mentoring Warriors like to say “The harvest is plentiful, the mentors are few. Therefore, pray to the Lord of the harvest to raise up mentors.”

You are More Qualified than you Think.

Conversations I have with men who could be potential mentors go something like this.

MW: “Dude, have you ever considered becoming a mentor?”

Potential Mentor: “Me? No way! If you knew the stupid stuff I’ve done over the years, I’ve totally disqualified myself forever being a mentor. 

MW: “Like what stupid things?”

PM:  “Like financial problems, a less than perfect marriage and kids that aren’t super at following Jesus. I guess I failed at a lot of things.”

MW: “The question my friend has less to do with the struggles of life and more to do with if you’ve brought them to the Lord.”

PW: “I definitely have!  And, honestly, He’s helped me at least get stabilized, although I have a long way to go!”

MW: “Don’t we all!  God doesn’t come into your life, just to make it better. He comes into your life, brings restoration, SO THAT, you can, in turn, come alongside others who could use some godly encouragement and advice. Like paying it forward.”

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.  

2 Corinthians 1: 3-4 ESV

Mentor Just One

There are over 22 million warrior-aged young men (18-30) in the USA. They are in that stage of life where they are figuring out a lot of things, often solo.  Some are doing alright but could use an older guy to offer guidance. Others are doing crazy things, making stupid decisions, and facing the sometimes embarrassing and painful results alone. They could use a mentor but have no idea where to look. 

No one can mentor everyone, but one can mentor one. You may already know a warrior and not realize it: a nephew, grandson, neighbor, co-worker, a young married man at church.  Make a list and ask God to give you a specific name of someone you might mentor.

What to Do?

Mentoring isn’t like a marriage proposal!  Rather, it’s “Let me introduce myself. I’d like to grab a coffee sometime and hear your story.”  There are three things a mentor does:

Listen: Not just to the words the warrior is saying, but deeper to what’s going on in his heart. Recently, a young warrior (20) and I were grabbing lunch. He was telling me about his upcoming trips to other States to find work. “And, if that job doesn’t work out, I’ve got another one in Pennsylvania lined up.”  The real issue isn’t the job. The real issue is figuring out who he is and how God’s wired him as a man. A mentor can help him see the underlying, foundational things going on. A day or two later I texted him a challenge. Read through Psalm 139 and make a list of everything God says about who he is. He accepted the challenge! 

Guide: There are essentially six core areas a young man is working through at any given time:

  • Self-management
  • Life skills
  • Education/Career
  • Faith
  • Relationships
  • Identity

 As you dialogue with him, think of what godly advice you can offer.  Advise rooted in God’s Word.  A young man is struggling in his marriage. His wife has grown cold. It’s been a very long time since they’ve had sex. He’s confused. “Have you pursued her lately?” I asked. He gave me a blank look. “A woman wants to be pursued. She longs to be wanted, desired, and fought for.”  I recounted a time when I stopped pursuing my wife and faced a similar season. He responded, “I guess I’ve let other things get in the way of her, of us.”  Through my own struggles in that area, I was able to help him see the value of pursuing her again.

Offer Hope: Not some pie in the sky sense of ease, but that even amidst whatever he’s figuring out, there is hope, if he keeps his eyes ultimately on Jesus. Galatians 2:20 is a great verse that offers hope.

“I’ve been crucified with Christ. It’s no longer I who live but Christ who lives through me. And, the life I now live in the flesh, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself up for me.”

I know a guy who got parts of this verse tattooed on him. “It’s a reminder of who lives through me all the time.”

Regardless of how bleak things can seem, there is always hope. 

Mentor Qualifications

Humbly-selfless-Willing to let God use you in other’s lives.

Sharing your story of how God is at work in you

Availability. Be accessible for warriors to spend time with you

Gospel-minded. Not preachy, but seeing how God offers hope in any situation your warrior faces.

Salary:  $0.00   Don’t quit your day job if you think mentoring is going to be your new gig. Pay is horrible. In all my years of investing in young warriors, I’ve never been paid financially. BUT, I’ve been paid far more than money could offer in the way I’ve seen many of them grow into healthy, godly young men who have a heart for mentoring as well.  They now want to pay it forward for greater purposes than just themselves. That is pay enough for me!

Where Do You Sign up?

  • Tell Jesus you are ready to answer the Luke 10:2 call. 
  • Ask God to link you up with a warrior.
  • Tell a leader in your church about your desire to mentor. 
  • Reach out to us at Mentoring Warriors.

A helpful tool to get you started is the Mentoring Warriors Boot Camp.

Held twice annually, with more coming to other cities, this is a great way to jump in, get equipped, and find support as you start mentoring. If you can’t attend, at least buy the book.

Mentor On!

David Riffel is the Founder and Executive Director of Having gone through his warrior years (18-30) essentially without a mentor, God has placed in him a heart for warriors, to come alongside them in various ways as they figure out life. David’s newly released book, Mentoring Warriors: Coming Alongside Young Men 18-30, outlines principles for mentoring and gives advice for warriors in six key areas of life: self-management, life skills, education/career, relationships, faith, and identity.

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