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Killer Lies

Ever since my experience at Wild at Heart Men’s Boot Camp, my eyes have been opened to the myriad of lies I’ve been suckered into believing. “I’m not good enough.” “I’m an inconvenience.” “No one is that interested in knowing me.”  These have haunted me since I was a kid. All through my teens and young adult years, I knew there was something wrong, something holding me back. I just couldn’t put my finger on it.

Fast Forward

Recently, I was on a live Atlanta TV show, being interviewed for my book, Mentoring Warriors. It was a great fifteen-minute show!

The interviewee right before my segment was Travis Hall. He’s the author of “7 Deadly Thoughts”. I snagged a copy of his book and devoured it!   Between what he says about lies we believe and things the Lord has shown me about myself, I not only have more clarity on the lies being fed me by the Enemy but have a better handle on how to win the battle.

Anchored by the Truth

There is a big difference between what people and culture say about you and what God says. People and society change with the wind. One day up, another down. For example, there is a strong push towards a forced narrative in the current political climate that wants to rewrite history. Individual identity is sacrificed for the sake of the masses.  Yet, what does God say?  Each one of us is “fearfully and wonderfully made.” (Psalm 139). Individual lives and choices matter. Purpose and hope are ultimately found in the Gospel. 

Scared Spitless

When you or I take our walks with Jesus intentionally, we usually face unexpected turbulence. Spiritual battles rise up. The Enemy is scared spitless of what you will be like when your heart is fully devoted to Christ.  Thus, any arrow aimed at our heart is exactly Satan’s modus operandi to derail our lives. Lies are his first priority. “Did God really say?” Countering those lies with the truth becomes your number one weapon to defeat Satan.

Here’s a list of the lies I’ve believed and the antidote. (take some of the blank spots and add the lies you struggle with. Then, give the truth; what God says.  

I am not good enough.Philippians 4:13 “I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.”
I’m an inconvenience.Acts 17:24 “For God determined the exact time and places one should live; that they might seek Him although he is not far off.
No one is interested in knowing me.Psalm 139. I am fearfully and wonderfully made. He is intimately acquainted with all my ways. 

Ask for Help

I’m not exactly sure why, but even guys who love Jesus have a hard time asking for help. When we live in such determined resolve to figure life out solo we lose out on a major part of how God heals us.  It’s called “asking for help”,  

Galatians 6:1-5 talks about coming alongside others as they carry a burden that is too heavy for them to bear solo. “Bear one another’s burdens and thus fulfill the law of Christ.”  Here’s the deal, I can’t help you if you won’t tell me what’s going on.  And, vice versa.  I need to be open and vulnerable to those areas I’m struggling with, AND, give you the opportunity to help me.  

Helping me means listening to me vent, hearing and deciphering the lies I’m holding on to; the ones I’m blind to. To take the time to understand me, to know me, to love me.  Yes, to love me enough to speak truth into my life, even it pains me to hear it.

Even Mentors Need Help

If you are in a mentoring relationship, keep in mind your mentor is not perfect. There are lies he wrestles with that could sure use you to come alongside and speak truth into his life.

For years I’ve been speaking into a host of warrior-aged young men things that reflect the core of their manhood.  “I believe in you.” “I’d do anything for you to mature in Christ.” “I’d take you as a son any day.”  What I find interesting is how their demeanor improves when they realize who they are in Christ. The lies that snagged them as a boy, or middle schooler are starting to be replaced by the truth of who God says they are.

In fact, you know things have changed in your mentoring relationship when the warrior man takes the initiative to speak truth into your life. 

My business was awarded a large project contract.  We had a unanimous vote from the client’s building committee, only to find out that a third party was working against the client’s decision by introducing another firm and trashing our firm with lies. I led our firm’s proposal campaign that resulted in the win, so hearing of the third-party playing low-ball discouraged me. 

What amazed me was one of the young men I mentor, took me aside, spoke life into my situation, and prayed over me! All on his own initiative! I can’t tell you how much that helped me see the truth of what was going on and to conquer the lies.

Three Things to Win over Killer Lies.

  1. For each lie identified, name the truth from God’s Word that counters it.
  2. Ask for help. Stop playing mind games where spiritual battles run amok. Reach out and ask someone to pray for you, to offer advice, to simply listen to you vent.
  3. By faith, claim your position in Christ over the lies. Satan will have no hold on you, as you trust in Christ Jesus.

Warrior On!

David Riffel is the Founder and Executive Director of Having gone through his warrior years (18-30) essentially without a mentor, God has placed in him a heart for warriors, to come alongside them in various ways as they figure out life. David’s newly released book, Mentoring Warriors: Coming Alongside Young Men 18-30, outlines principles for mentoring and gives advice for warriors in six key areas of life: self-management, life skills, education/career, relationships, faith, and identity.

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